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How To Dress for Big Boobs--Orignally Run on MySoCalledChaos.com

Stick to dresses with a waist
As a woman with massive breasts (ha!) I have learned a few tips and tricks to wearing flattering outfits. Here are just a few of my tips.

Do not buy things without a waist

Shift dresses are not your friend, no matter how much you want them to be. They may be on your side if they are structured, but unstructured dresses or flowy tops will just make you look bigger. You can create a waist on some shirts or dresses by adding a belt. You need to experiment with this, though, as not all tops or dresses can be belted. Sometimes a little too much fabric can fold over the top.

Along that vein, baggy clothes and hippy styles are not your friends.

Turtlenecks and boat necks are not going to do it.

 Unless you're trying to accentuate your chest, boat necks (high round neck) and turtlenecks are not going to work out for you. They make your boobs look much bigger and are bound to make them extremely noticeable.

Choose a jacket with a belt

Choose single breasted jackets and thinner knit sweaters/jumpers

These can have a slimming effect on the body. Better yet, choose a single breast with a defined waist.

Halter Tops

Some fashion sources say that halter tops should be avoided at all costs, however I find that they work quite well for women with big breasts. They are rather supportive and as long as there is enough material to adequately cover your breasts, they can be a great summer staple.

Horizontal Stripes

Horizontal stripes are a no-no on a large bust. They can maximize the appearance of large breasts.

Support

Make sure you have adequate support! This cannot be stressed enough. Because of this issue, strapless tops are not recommended, however strapless dresses may sometimes allow it if the dress is structured and well made. If you want to go sans straps, invest in a good quality strapless bra.

The Run Down

Avoid baggy clothes or clothes that aren't fitted. Go for lower round necks or v-necks. Try coats with a waist and add a belt when possible.




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Book Roundup! Plus Don't Forget to Enter the Canon 600D/Rebel T3i Giveaway!




I've been reading a ton of books lately and making my way slowly through the little pile on the side of my bed. I thought I'd do a book round-up of the ones I've recently read, am reading or are on my to read list in order to plug a few authors, indie and mainstream that I've been enjoying and give you guys some suggestions. Some of these are for school and I'm sure it's pretty obvious which ones those are. However, if you're interested in the time period, some of them are definitely worth a browse!

Fear: Anti-Semitism in Poland After Auschwitz by Jan T. Gross

This book, by renowned Holocaust scholar Jan T. Gross, examines the issue of anti-semitism in post-war Poland--especially those years directly after the Holocaust. I've only just started reading this one, but it is very interesting so far. As I'm not really up on my WWII battles, I've had to read and re-read parts of it that discuss the battles just to understand completely. As Jan T. Gross really knows his stuff, I would say this is definitely recommended to anyone interested in this time period.

Available here.
Holocaust: A History by Deborah Dwork and Robert Jan van Pelt

So, I'm not sure why the cover looks like this. Mine doesn't look like that at all, but it was the only cover I could find. This book is extremely comprehensive in discussing the Holocaust and its origins. It is sprinkled with lots of testimony, bringing the history alive a bit more. I have to say that as someone who studies the Holocaust, there wasn't much new in there for me. But if you're just a casual historian, this would be a good book to help you learn a little bit more about the Holocaust.

Available here.

Scary Mary by SA Hunter

I haven't actually started reading this one yet, but I like the premise. It is about a teenage girl who speaks to the dead--even though she'd rather not. I've this on my Kindle and am looking forward to reading it. It has gotten great reviews on Amazon and has been featured on the bestseller list, so it seems like it'll be a good read.

Scary Mary (The Scary Mary Series)*
Awaken by Katie Kacvinsky 

I've just started Awaken, but haven't gotten very far. It's not going to say it isn't engrossing, I just haven't really had the time to sit down and read it with the other projects I'm doing and books I'm supposed to be reading. This book is a dystopian piece that features a world where people interact almost entirely on computers--which doesn't really seem too far from reality. I'm definitely looking forward to sitting down and giving it a thorough read. It is part of series, with the next book entitled Middle Ground.

Awaken*
If I Stay by Gayle Forman

I haven't even cracked this one open yet, but with all of the good press about it and the movie coming out soon, it's one I'm looking forward to reading.

If I Stay*
Beneath the Glitter by Elle and Blair Fowler

I know this one is a bit embarrassing, but pretty much every young(ish) woman has been a "fan" of the Fowler sisters at some point. I decided to give this one a read, although I have to admit the writing is pretty amateurish and young. Although it is classed as YA, it seems to be really for 9-12 year olds.

Beneath the Glitter: A Novel (Sophia and Ava London)*

I just watched the film Philomena a few nights ago and this book has a similar ring to it. I haven't read it yet, but it follows a young girl who, after getting pregnant out of wedlock, is forced to give up her child for adoption. This one, however, is different from Philomena in that it focuses on the girl's fight to keep her child. Looks like an interesting read.

Unforgivable*






 
The Pages in Between by Erin Einhorn

Personal stories are my favorite part of history, so this book did not disappoint. This memoir chronicles a young Einhorn as she ventures to Poland to retrace her mother's roots. Einhorn's mother had been hidden during the Holocaust by a Polish family whom her own family no longer keeps in touch with. She goes back to meet them where they form a complex relationship. Even if you're not a huge history geek like me, I think you'll find this book enjoyable.
The Pages in Between: A Holocaust Legacy of Two Families, One Home*





This is a devastating book about a young woman who was abducted and held against her will for 11 years. Yes, 11 bloody years. I've been following her story on Dr. Phil and I'm very interested in the way the follow up of her story has been treated (I will be writing a blog post on this in the future). This book is very well written and is doing amazingly well on the charts. This book isn't for the faint of heart, but it will definitely make you count your lucky stars. Everyone reiterates that Michelle is a brave woman, and she definitely is. This story is truly harrowing.

Finding Me: A Decade of Darkness, a Life Reclaimed: A Memoir of the Cleveland Kidnappings*










  
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Win an iPad Mini! (It's Like Christmas Here with the camera and iPad Mini!)

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Racism and Sexism Claims Ten Lives in One Day--Let's Talk Anti-Semitism

I've been sitting here in front of the computer for a good fifteen minutes trying to find the words to express my feelings about the shootings in Santa Barbara and the Jewish Museum in Brussels. Really, it doesn't matter what I have to say. I'm just one person, contributing to an already deafening cacophony on the Internet, expressing their disgust, their anger and their absolute shock.

I may do a Part II address the sexism in regards to the Santa Barbara shooting, but I am not sure.

The thing is, none of this is really that shocking to me. As a Jew (well, mostly), a woman and someone who studies the Holocaust as their career, I always knew it would be a matter of time before something like this happened. And it is only a matter of time before things like this happen again.

If you visit most (not all, now that I think about it) Holocaust museums or Jewish museums (those who don't really need to look into security measures), you will notice that you have to go through something of a mini airport security in order to enter. In the summer of 2013, I was lucky enough to attend a fellowship at the Holocaust Memorial in Paris. We spent our entire days there, often breaking for lunch somewhere in the 4 arrondissement. It was a pain to have to go through security twice a day and many people openly complained that this measure was overly cautious.

When I lived in Amsterdam, I visited the Portuguese Synagogue a couple of times for different Jewish holidays (their community is much more observant than I am, but it was still very interesting to see this beautiful synagogue still in operation after so much devastation during the 1940s). In order to enter the premises during such an event (i.e. when you're not visiting it as a monument or the attached museum), you are required to give the name of the person who invited you. At first I dismissed this as overly cautious paranoia still hanging on from the 1940s, but when a friend of mine told me that someone tried to throw Molotov cocktails during a Yom Kippur service, I began to understand.

My housemate and I were just discussing the shooting, and he said anti-Semitism to him seems like something out of the stone age: what our grandparents faced or heard about, but not anything that takes true root today. Unfortunately, anti-Semitism is alive and well...rearing its ugly head in little innocuous throwaway comments that are likely not meant as racist or hurtful, but are (recently I heard someone say about a friend of mine that because they are Jewish, they must demand a high price for any of their professional services). But it also comes about in people staking out Jewish museums and shooting people who are simply a different religion than they are.

I don't understand why anti-Semitism is so prevalent. I don't understand why people have always hated the Jews and blamed them for things. The only thing I can think is that many Jews have either been forced to or have chosen to (depending on their situation) at different times in history to live separately and therefore become The Other. As a Holocaust scholar, I know all the reasoning behind anti-Semitism, I know the grievences the Jews supposedly committed that made them fodder for annihilation. But I can't help but think of individuals each time these facts are listed. What about the woman I used to visit in New York through a Holocaust survivor program who survived hiding in Germany as a prepubescent child? What would an eight-year-old do? What about all of the lovely kind-hearted Jewish people I know who have been there for me when I have most needed it?

Yes, of course, there are Jews who aren't good people just as there are in every race, religion or creed. But on the whole, how can you blame an entire people for any one thing? Especially when the Jews have never done anything to provoke it. Recently, I was shocked when someone asked me during a Holocaust Q&A what the Jews had done to provoke the violence against them. "Everyone hates them," this person reasoned. "They must have done something wrong." Sadly, I have heard this line of reasoning given for the hatred of gypsies and blacks as well and it makes my blood boil.

I think the best gift my parents gave me as a child was growing up in a diverse area and having a diverse family background. In my family, there are strong Catholics, Fundamentalist Christians, Jews and even a smattering of Amish people (chalk this up to intermarriage!). My uncle (by marriage)'s first wife was a Mormon as well, and my step-cousins were raised in that environment. My high school was Catholic, but had a significant population of Muslims and Hindus. Because of all of this exposure so young to so many different cultures and religions, I had always learned to respect others. As an adult, some of this sometimes fades in regards to religion (although I will say that as long as you don't patronise me about my beliefs and tell me yours are the best, then I will respect you), but it has still stuck with me. I was surprised when I learned that people disrespect others and their religious practices. I also find it weird to live in a town or go to a school where there are no non-white people. I have done it a couple of times (been in places with only white people)...it is weird.


Anyway, this is turning into a ramble and is really, really long. It isn't something I really want to put on my blog usually, but I just felt like I needed to say it and to express my feelings (the Internet makes us SO narcissistic, doesn't it?). I had written even more, but it got too political for where I want to take my blog...

I will try to write on the Santa Barbara shooting tomorrow.

I hope this made some shred of sense.







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John Lewis and The Kinks and My Boyfriend's Channel

Luke Started a YouTube Channel!

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John Lewis Advert


This John Lewis advert celebrating 150 years in business has been playing all over the airwaves in Britain and I've been loving it. It features two of my favorite things: social history and The Kinks--what's not to love? For those not from the UK (especially for my American readers), John Lewis is both a department store and brand at large. They own stores similar to Macy's or Nordstrom all over the UK in addition to having other companies, such as high end grocery stores, under their umbrella.

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My Response to my XOJane Article--or Why I Don't Support Stores that Claim to Cure Diseases and Defence of Diet Coke

As many of you are aware, I recently wrote an article for the site XO Jane about living with lupus SLE, specifically about the unsolicited advice you often receive. What I am focused on in this article is the diet shaming that seems to happen. There is often a belief that if you eat xyz, you're going to be cured or wouldn't have had lupus in the first place (I neglected to mention that one theory is that lupus is a build up of toxins from years of a bad diet).



The thing is, in theory, I'm not against diets to help you improve your health. I agree with the general consensus that it probably isn't healthy to be morbidly obese, that sugar in excess likely makes you feel rotten and processed foods aren't really the best thing in the world to put down your pie-hole. I think eating is extremely personal and finding the best diet for you is really what it's all about. Besides that, if someone is doing something massively unhealthy for their body, it is ultimately their business and not yours. Yes, it may validate your own life choices for you for a minute to shame them for eating too much fat or gluten or whatever, but it doesn't do much in the long run but make that person feel badly about themselves.

Cured vs. Alleviated--Why Wording is Important


You'll see in the XO Jane article that a certain company (which I will not name) posted on the UK site in the comments section (they have since removed their company name and it appears as Guest...I'm not sure if this is in embarrassment or because they were asked to do so by XO Jane) telling me that a British comedian has cured herself of lupus with a natural, raw diet. The company representative also shames me for drinking Diet Coke.

There are two issues I have with this. Firstly, the woman in question explicitly states in the article linked to that she has not been cured but has been able to put her disease into a state of remission. She still has symptoms. Whether the diet put her in remission or she would have been in remission anyway is not the point, but rather that autoimmune diseases are characterized by their periods of remission and activity. Just because a blood draw comes back without antibodies does not mean that you are now cured. You can go years without symptoms, which is awesome!, but there is always a chance it will come back. Whether you go years without symptoms due to a diet or medicine, it is still pretty cool if you can do that. BUT, I feel this company is spreading misinformation about the ability to cure a disease that is incurable. Alleviated her symptoms? Yes. Cured? No. Two very distinct things!

In Defence (Defense--living in the UK has really marred my spelling) of Diet Coke

Then there is the whole Diet Coke thing. It's almost as if Diet Coke has become the new cigarettes. If you publicly drink Diet Coke habitually, I am sure you have been shamed more than once for doing it. It is bad for you, it is the cause of lupus, it is the cause of everything horrible in your life, you're going to get cancer, etc.

Now, let's examine why people think they are justified in saying this. If you Google "Diet Coke bad for you," you'll come across a ton of media outlets that will cite studies claiming Diet Coke causes horrible diseases, that aspartame is secretly killing you, that it makes you obese, etc. You may think, "That's legit if ABC News reported it! Stop right now and shame everyone who drinks it in the name of education!"

However, there is more to it than meets the eye. Firstly, the National Institute of Health reports that the obesity claim just doesn't hold water. Research done shows that obese people who consume Diet Coke find their excess calories elsewhere, thus making them obese. The simple act of drinking Diet Coke does not cause obesity.

You can also read that jury is still out on stroke risk and Diet Coke, there is no hard evidence connecting aspartame to cancer. I also read a study, but cannot find the link again, that stated that the evidence they found that Diet Coke causes harm was inconclusive and not statistically significant and that those who ran the study were surprised media outlets picked it up so quickly and ran with it. A new study by the University of Iowa is being reported to spell the end of Diet Coke because of its link to heart problems, but if it is actually read, they clearly state there is not a causation and people cannot yet jump to conclusions.

Diet Coke, however MAY cause kidney issues, but drinking it in moderation is okay.

Selling "Natural" Products and the Promotion of Diets

There are two reasons why I dislike the promotion of diets. One is that it allows the person who believes his or her current diet has magical powers to shame someone else for not following their paleo/vegan/natural/whatever diet. It causes unnecessary judgement and there hasn't really been any scientific data to back up these claims, most are just anecdotal. If there is a study (NOT sponsored by someone like Robb Wolf--the paleo dude) then please point it in my direction. The Hospital for Special Surgery (where I used to be treated in the US) has gone on record saying there is no food that causes lupus, but it is important to make good nutritional choices (as it is for everyone). Although there are some specific foods that cause inflammation (i.e. alfalfa sprouts, nightshade vegetables, high in fat dairy).

The second reason I dislike the promotion of diets and products (after I had my article published, I was contacted by two companies who wanted me to try their gel and nutrition shake respectively) is that it is using people's vulnerability for monetary gain, particularly the newly diagnosed. When you all of the sudden cannot do the things you used to due to painful inflammation or increased fatigue, it is really, really scary. You want to do anything to get your life back, so you'll buy anything. This is where scammers and profiteers come in, even if they don't know they are scamming. Many people have good intentions, but they don't really know much about the diseases the are professing to cure or treat. Thus, they may be advising something that interacts with medication, causes more inflammation or does more harm than good. According to Hospital for Special Surgery, a diet like the paleo diet would not be recommended for lupus patients because some of the paleo staples are known to cause inflammation.

How do diets profiteer off of vulnerable people? Easily. Books. CDs. Documentaries. Lecture series that cost money to attend.

In the end, it is your body. Eating healthy is important for everyone, but don't allow people to make you feel guilty for your food choices. And if you have an autoimmune disorder, listen to professionals in their field. I'm not saying all doctors have all of the answers (I've dealt with some real assholes and have switched doctors numerous times), but you also have to listen to reason. Dr. Everett of Hospital for Special Surgery states that "natural" does not mean "good for you" or "safe." After all, some poisons are natural, aren't they?


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They're baaaaack....

 I don't know about you, but I had a pair of these bad boys back in the late '90s when I was in middle school. I think I had a pair of those exact same jellies, and one that got washed away in the Pacific Ocean whilst I was trying to clean my feet on a school outing. I had to walk back to the car shoeless after my crush attempted to save one. Suffice to say, he and I never got together and I continued pairing this monstrosities with those terrible polyester '70s throw-back button ups. 

But the '90s fashions are back, complete with crop tops and jellies, no matter how much we wish it weren't so. Personally, I'm more of a classics than trends girl, but every so often I'll indulge. But this is one trend I think I'll be skipping. Middle school was awkward enough--I don't need to Pavlov's dog myself back to it with these horrible reminders.


                                     ASOS offers some updated versions, but even then I'm going to pass.

If these are up your street and you're really hankering for that '90s throwback, you can find all of these beauties here on ASOS.

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Warm Weather=BBQs in the UK and Help Marc Get a New Heart (and win an iPad)

March Serchia's Search for a New Heart

I was recently contacted by Marc Serchia's family in order to help him receive a new heart. In 1996, Marc suffered a severe heart attack that left him all but dead (he officially died six times in the process of getting his heart to beat again). He needs a heart transplant, but unfortunately his time will be up before he can receive one. His family has been given the go-ahead to replace his heart through amazing new stem cell therapy, but he will need $35,000 to do so. You can read more of Marc's story here and win an iPad in the process of helping Marc here. I cannot verify the authenticity of this 100% (as is impossible with fundraisers), but from the surface level research I did, it does appear to be authentic. Please be aware, however, that I am cannot be held responsible for any content or fundraisers not on one of my sites.

Summer BBQ!

In England, beautiful weather means two things: nearly naked people and barbecues. Seriously, I saw a girl barefoot at the bus station once when it was a day we would have considered chilly in the US. Nevertheless, this weekend was gorgeous, so we ended up having a little garden party with my housemates and neighbors. Here are some of the shots I took.

If the weather is nice where you are, I hope you're having a lovely time outside!



























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Gipsy Dharma, New YouTube Video and Traveling Light with Beauty Products

Three orders of business on the agenda this morning!

Gypsy Dharma

I was recently to a funky website called Gipsy Dharma that sells leather shoes and skirts on their site. Although it may not be something I'd normally wear, I find it really interesting for a costume (cosplay perhaps or Halloween) or for the gal who is into more edgy designs. Think Jessa from Girls--or Avatar meets boho chic. These designs are all made by hand, insuring you're getting a fully new and unique design. That is pretty cool. They even have a Polyvore to give you outfit inspiration ideas.

Some of my favorites include:

Ankle leather boots £129...Great investment for the Fall
These GORGEOUS leather flip flops. 
These lovely over-the-knee boots. £180
Go on over to Gipsy Dharma and take a look yourself! :)



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Couture Goes Corporate--Traveling Light with Beauty Products



I've recently begun doing weekly contributions to Couture Goes Corporate, an online magazine with a slant toward the working woman. This week, my column was all about traveling with beauty products (something I'm going to talk a lot more about as I prepare to live out of a suitcase for a month this summer!). Even if you're not a working lady, you may find the tips helpful. Scoot on over there for some great (if I do say so myself) tips and tricks.




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